Why do modern women need sexual diversity?
Imagine that you have found your ideal in love and sex. 10 points out of 10. A dream came true.
Here is a moment of happiness. You solemnly promise that any sexual experience with only one partner, only with the most beloved, for the rest of your life. That’s cool! Don’t look for anyone else. The problem is solved. Forever! You can focus on the great.
Why have a sexual experience with someone else if you have a loved one?
Everything seems logical.
Quick question. What is your favorite food?
Here is a moment of happiness. You solemnly promise that you will now eat only your favorite food and nothing else, for breakfast, lunch and dinner, every day, for the rest of your life. That’s cool! No need to think any more to cook this. The problem is solved. Forever! You can focus on the great.
Why eat anything else if you have a favorite food?
Whoa whoa whoa! How can you compare people and food?
Food is just an example. There can be an infinite number of examples.
Why be friends with someone else if you have a best friend?
Why listen to other songs if you have a favorite song?
Why travel to other countries if you love your country?
Why do you need to watch other movies if you have made a film adaptation of “50 shades”?
Of course, the same food will get bored much faster than the same sexual partner for a man, and for a woman (on average) even longer. But it’s bound to happen.
This may sound like an excuse. But believe me, I would also like to fill the refrigerator with dumplings and never steam again. Unfortunately, this doesn’t work in the long run. Just like it doesn’t work with sex.
But after all, sex life can be diversified not only by partners you can go to a sex shop, buy toys, a nurse’s costume and a strap-on. You can also have sex in different places.
Of course you can. It might even improve the situation.
Let’s go back to the dumplings.
imagine that you only ate dumplings, several years in a row, in the same place. But you don’t want to cheat on the dumplings. You can go to the store to buy spices, sauces and eat dumplings in different places.
Indeed, it will get better, especially after many years with dumplings without sauce. we just improved the situation. so we’re moving in the right direction?
If you see a temporary improvement in something, it does not always mean that you have solved the problem itself.
If you only eat your favorite food, it will quickly become unloved.
The only way that your favorite food remains your favorite food is through variety in food.
The only way that your sexual partner remains the most desirable for you is diversity in partners. the only one .
If you are ideal for your partner at the moment, no matter what you do, he will lose his sexual appetite for you when his appetite for others grows. Not because they are better, but simply because they are different. It’s inevitable.
So now get a divorce right away, or take another trip to the sea together?
Let’s try to understand why this is so. Before you think about what to do.
Lustful monkeys in the modern world
First about the monkeys.
You already know that our sex drive is driven by our instincts. I will try not to linger on this topic for a long time.
There are basic instincts, and there are acquired ones. There are only two basic instincts, self-preservation and reproduction. Devour (appetite) and sexual desire are derived precisely from basic instincts.
There is a myth that only men are prone to polygamy on the level of instincts and that for women it is not “natural”. At least this version is loved by men who are trying to sell why it is good and natural for them to change, and very bad for women. I think A lot of women just laugh about it. It’s A little sad, though.
Women are very fantasizing about other men. And there are No fantasies without desires .
In fact, the instinct to create as many copies of yourself as possible, in any effective way, was laid down in all people, both males and females. We have one natural goal. Previously, everything was decided by force and when a stronger male gave a cradle to a weaker one, he took his female. And the female continued to reproduce quite well and could change many males during her life. It was more difficult to choose the male herself, since the females are physically weaker. In fact, the females remained in captivity of the stronger male.
Why are men on average more ” preoccupied” than women?
First, women have a longer reproduction cycle, they have to bear and feed the fetus. Women also get bored with sexual partners, it’s just that men break down earlier.
Secondly, men, on average, are physically stronger than women.
Was polygamy forced out of women?
Actually, and not only polygamy. Before the government was formed mainly at the expense of power. There are still many countries where women have much less rights than men. And there is no country where the opposite is true. Not one. Do you think women gave up their rights of their own free will?
It is an amazing fact that in countries where women have the least rights, men have the right to polygamy, and for women there is a big taboo even on the manifestation of sexuality in principle, except for the husband’s bedroom. Unfortunately, there are still countries where girls have their clitoris removed after birth.
Let’s go back to our reality.
Modern research confirms that women get bored of monogamous relationships faster than men. What? how is this possible?
It should be said at once that we are talking about research in civilized countries, where women have equal rights and sufficient respect. Example of publications in the United States and the United Kingdom.
In today’s world, women are no longer engaged in reproduction all their healthy lives. On average, one / two children in a lifetime, and people now live much longer.
99.98% of our sexual experience is for pleasure. And only 0.02% for procreation. Sex has long passed into the category of entertainment.
Fun and entertainment
Do we need diversity in everything? Both in things and in people?
If you have a favorite brand of toilet paper that you are completely satisfied with, you can continue to use it.
If you have a good doctor to whom you trust your treatment, you can also not experiment.
Where do we need diversity?
In everything we do for fun and entertainment.
In fact, it’s not just that. But when it comes to pleasure and everything that fights boredom, diversity is necessary in 100% Of Cases, without exception. This is how our brain works, otherwise it will get bored again.
If you have a favorite comedian and you will constantly review only his performances, he will bore you and you will no longer get the desired pleasure. The same applies to your favorite book, song, TV series, place for a walk, game, get-togethers with friends, etc.
In addition to the fact that we need diversity in each of the types of entertainment, we still have to mix the entertainment itself with each other.
Nowadays, there are too many options and we do not use all possible ones. Someone does not read books for pleasure, someone does not travel, someone does not play games.
Something can not be done at all and variety, in this something, is no longer necessary.
We have always compared with food for a reason. unlike instagram, food is the kind of pleasure that we got together with basic instinct. Everyone, without exception, uses it. I have to.
By the way, our diversity in food is already a product of intelligence and civilization. For millions of years, our ancestors didn’t eat cheesecakes or drink lattes. About wheat and flour, too, did not know, so even with bread did not work out. They didn’t learn how to make a fire right away. And how they lived.
The rest of the animals, which, unlike us, failed to develop intelligence, do not have a “balanced diet” and do not prepare dishes. cows and bulls have much more muscle mass than humans, but they eat only grass, and they are normal.
From the point of view of ” nature”, you don’t need variety in food, as well as your favorite TV series.
Try to reconnect with nature and eat only raw hares without salt. There is, only for survival. Your life will become just awful and you will feel insignificant.
Civilization changes us very much, including our nature (in every sense of the word).
sex is the second kind of pleasure that we have received together with the basic instinct. And it’s been a long time since we’ve had sex just for reproduction.
here is the answer to the question of why women are equal in the desire to get sexual diversity with men. civilization.
Women, no less than men, love (and have the right) to enjoy and have fun, and this simply does not work without diversity.
But, despite the desire of both sexes, sex remains the only kind of pleasure in which most people do not allow themselves a variety. not all of them, of course, but most of them.
There are two main reasons, jealousy and social pressure.
Jealousy
What is jealousy and where did it come from?
Jealousy, like envy, is a form of selfishness.
And where do we get egoism?
The basic instinct of reproduction, it is about reproduction of the beloved, and not humanity as a whole. Unlike bees or ants, the ego is sewn up at the level of basic instinct. Why, in fact, no one knows, but we are all selfish from birth.
When someone mimics breeding gestures with our partner instead of us, we don’t like it. This form of selfishness was called jealousy.
It is wrong to view sexual behavior only through the prism of the basic instinct of reproduction. Jealousy happens both among friends and among children when they are fighting for the attention of their parents.